Grief Recovery Counseling

Psalm 34:18 says, The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” This is truth however God doesn’t expect us to spiritualize our grief. It must be processed and completed with God’s help.

Grief is the feeling of reaching out for someone or something that has always been there only to find that this time they or it is no longer there. It is a sense of loss.

Grief is not just about losing a loved one, there are 42 potential loss experiences a person can experience in their lifetime, such as:

Death of a loved one, Health Changes, Graduation
Death of a pet, Empty Nest Moving
Marriage, Legal Problems, Retirement
Divorce, Changing Jobs, Loss of Friendships
Starting School, Financial Changes, End of Addiction
Trauma, Abuse, and Abandonment

Grief is about a broken heart, not a broken brain. All efforts to heal our hearts with our heads using logic or even truth fail because we are using the wrong tools. Our society attempts to resolve grieving issues with our intellect. We have not been taught to deal with grief appropriately.

All intellectual comments urge you to kick dirt over emotions, and just move forward and stop feeling badly because God is in control. God is in control but he never told us not to feel.

This is what the Lord says: “A voice is heard in Ramah, mourning and great weeping, Rachel weeping for her children and refusing to be comforted, because they (her children) are no more (Jeremiah 31:15).”

Comfort doesn’t come by trite says but by processing grief and receiving healing and hope from the Lord. Although the comments that grievers hear following a loss may be intellectually accurate, they are often emotionally barren. They close off the griever and urge them to buck up, put on a mask, and avoid the completion of the grieving process.

Grief is a normal and natural part of life and the most powerful of emotions. Yet, it is also the most neglected and misunderstood experience both to the griever and those around them.

Most books and teachings do not put the concepts of “grief” and “recovery” together. God is a God of healing and compassion and you can’t ignore or avoid grief but rather you process it and recover.

Grief is inevitable, even predictable in the lives of everyone. There are no universal reactions in grief. Each person is unique in their experience as well as in the duration of each grieving experience.

In grief counseling I teach you how to process grief, find what could have been better, different, or more. I teach you to process losses and identify every uncompleted significant emotional statement, identify the areas where forgiveness or amends are needed so you can complete the sorrow, and move forward with fond memories. Don’t allow grief to keep you stuck. Learn the tools to feel better and move forward regardless of your experiences.