Soul Ties Part 4 – Perversion in the Family

Soul Ties Part 4 – Perversion in the Family

Ungodly soul ties are also formed through perverted family ties. Neglect, emotional, psychological, physical, and sexual abuse brings destruction to families. God loves the family. He uses the family as an example of how Christians are to relate one to another and how He sees the church as His bride. The family is dear to God’s heart, thus it is a prime target for Satan to pervert.

Within families there should be close soul ties. Thus, a family can be perverted by not having healthy bonding between husband, wife, and children. This wounds the soul of family members, leaving them without a foundation to receive the acceptance, appreciation, approval, attention, comfort, connection, encouragement, freedom to choose, love, privacy, purpose, respect, safety, support, and validation that all of us need.

Neglect is one of the results of families that do not have healthy bonding. This is a form of abuse God created the family as a place to nourish all of your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.

When a child is born, the infant should bond with his/her parents. Parents are called to provide the love and nurture that is needed for a child to grow into a healthy adult. A healthy soul tie gives safety, security, and health to the child and provides stability and growth for life.
The Bible illustrates a soul tie between a parent and child.

“His father loves him…His life is bound up in the lad’s life, and his soul knit with the lad’s soul.”
Genesis 44:20, 30 (Amplified Bible)

When the bonding between child and parent is missed from birth, the child is left incomplete. This person is apt to search for a loving, bonded relationship throughout life. For example if a young woman becomes promiscuous, she may be searching for the closeness she never received from her father. Even if she finds a relationship her soul is often like a wall where the arrows of love and acceptance bounce off, unable to permeate the external stronghold. A spirit of rejection can keep you from accepting love.

Another way an ungodly soul tie is formed in the family is through excessive closeness. This can be described by parents who will never allow their child out of their sight during any of the developmental stages. They do not allow normal maturing and development. This is another form of abuse.

Although soul ties can be healthy between parent and child, they become unhealthy when they are carried into adulthood. Parents must let go of the adult child so that he/she can find his/her own way in the world. This ungodly soul tie is indicated when a parent tries to control the actions and decisions of the adult child.

Often guilt and manipulation is used to maintain this control. The soul tie that you have with your young children is gradually changed and broken as they reach adulthood and begin their own lives and families. “Cutting the apron strings” refers to severing the perverted soul tie between the parent and an adult offspring.

When a man or woman is ready for marriage the soul tie between them and their parents must be terminated for proper bonding to occur with their spouse. This does not mean that a close and loving relationship between adult children and their parents ends, but to remain healthy the relationship has to change.

Parents, who control their married children through financial means, or guilt, are damaging the bond between husband and wife. The Scriptures clearly command a man to leave his family of origin so that a union may be formed between husband and wife that results in a new family.

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
Ephesians 5:31 (NIV)

When two people marry they form a new family and have the opportunity to change all unhealthy patterns and do things God’s way. Many people in our current culture have experienced unhealthy family systems. It comes in all categories: poor bonding, all types of abuse and neglect, emotionally unavailable families, addiction systems, and so much more.

These soul ties have opened spiritual doors to oppression, created mental strongholds and thinking patterns, and unhealthy and ungodly life and relationship skills. The good news is the name of Jesus is greater than anything that you have experienced.

You do not have to break relationships to break soul ties. You can pray to break them and set healthy boundaries and receive the healing that God is ready and able to provide if you seek Him and apply His principles and tools to your life.