Trauma, Abuse and Abandonment Counseling

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All people have experienced trauma, pain, fear, and rejection; these traumas injure your soul. Many Christians struggle and do not experience the peace, joy, and thankfulness that God desires for them, and they are unaware of the damage that has occurred in their soul. When you receive your salvation, your soul arrives before the throne in varying degrees of brokenness. Some of you have been beaten down and shattered, while others have only acquired nicks and bruises.

Trauma, abuse & abandonment are closely linked because they all result in a psychological or emotional disturbance. Your experiences produce messages, and the messages develop into faulty core beliefs and mental strongholds that direct your expectations, emotions, speech patterns, life, and relationship skills.

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2 NKJV

When you experience trauma, abuse, and abandonment it affects your expectations and how you see yourself, and others. These experiences produce messages, and you have to choose to “not be conformed to this world.” If you agree with the messages from your experiences, adopt faulty thinking and behavioral patterns in response to them, you have been conformed to this world.

If you have been victimized it does not mean you have to think, live, or respond like a victim. You are an overcomer; every form of damage can be processed and overcome when you don’t allow it to taint your tomorrow with fear, negative expectations, pain, or rejection.

Trauma is not necessarily abuse, but all abuse is trauma. Trauma is a wound formed by sudden physical injury, or an emotional shock that jars the mind and emotions, and can produce lasting damage to the psychological development of an individual. Everyone has experienced trauma through life occurrences. Trauma can be identified in several areas: physical, accidental injuries, illnesses, psychological, and emotional traumas.

Abuse is the improper, misuse of an individual. It is a misuse of authority. When you are handled by another person or group wrongly, you have been mistreated and experienced harm, you have endured abuse. Abuse can be verbal, emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, or spiritual. Most people do not know how to identify the more subtle forms of abuse that are epidemic in our society. Often when you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you, you feel confused and disoriented, you receive double messages, when you feel disrespected, controlled and manipulated, unheard, invalidated, and your needs aren’t meet, you have experienced the more subtle forms of abuse.

All abuse systems will use anywhere from blatant, to subtle forms of manipulation and control. Abuse ranges from less severe to extreme. All abuse damages you in your thinking, expectations, self-image, life, and relationship skills. The damage done to your soul is directly proportionate to your experiences. No abuse is to be swept under the rug, because any and every destructive event harms your soul.

Abandonment is another form of abuse that is not from an action, but from a lack of action. Most people don’t realize that this is abuse, but neglect is a form of abuse. If your needs were left unmet from childhood, or anytime in your adult relationships, you emerge with pain in your soul. When someone is emotionally unavailable, does not communicate, withholds information, support, comfort, or affection, it is abandonment – an abuse from a lack of action.

In addiction systems there is always abuse. The person who is abusing a substance or event will do whatever is necessary to protect that primary relationship and will sacrifice others to meet their need. The result is that their primary relationships will be left with unmet needs, a lack of safety, honesty, or availability to be emotionally present consistently, which is not possible as the person progresses into addiction.

Every person should learn the types of abuse and their characteristics, the many types of verbal abuse, the 20 healthy behaviors in relationships, and other tools that help to identify when abuse is present and give you a name to identify it further. Learn what healthy looks like before you find yourself in an abuse system. If you question if you are experiencing a form of abuse, if you feel uncomfortable, or are in a painful relationship please seek help with our online counselors.

Receive Trauma, Abuse, and Abandonment Counseling from our Certified Professional Dr. Michele. For more christian counseling services please visit: www.drmichele.org/services

– Dr. Michele

“Empowering Solutions For A More Fulfilling Life!”

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